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5 top tips for avoiding Christmas guilt

Tamara Willner
Written by

Tamara Willner

Medically reviewed by

Fiona Moncrieff

5 min read
Last updated July 2024

Christmas is often a social time of year when we get together with loved ones for large meals, and boxes of Celebrations are passed around.

When you have specific health goals, it can be frustrating to be surrounded by a constant temptation which frequently leads to feelings of food guilt when you ‘give in’.

Food guilt is often related to ‘shoulds’ and strict rules we think we should follow.

For example, we should eat certain foods; we shouldn’t eat chocolate; we should only have 1-2 potatoes, and so on. This can harm our mental health in the long term.

Every time we’re overindulging or breaking a rule, we feel guilty about it. So, what can we do to enjoy a guilt-free holiday season?

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Otherwise, here are our six top tips for avoiding food guilt this festive season.

1) Ditch the ‘shoulds’

Should’ sentences about food or drink come from a place of harsh restriction and striving for perfection.

When you catch yourself saying any sentence with a ‘should’ in it, reformulate it to change it from a harsh rule to an attainable goal.

For example:

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‘I should drink more water and less fizzy drinks’

This kind of thought results in us feeling restricted. It’s human nature to want to do something more when we feel like it’s off limits!

Stop and reformulate this thought to:

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‘Today, I am going to start drinking more water and less fizzy drinks’


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‘I want to drink more water and less fizzy drinks’

Setting this as a positive intention means that we are less likely to feel guilty if we experience a slip-up and more likely to feel a sense of achievement if we stick to it.

2) Manage your expectations

There is much more temptation and opportunity to stray from your health goals over the festive period, particularly on Christmas day.

It’s unnecessary to be wholly restrictive and say no to every indulgence. Try thinking ahead and managing your expectations of yourself in advance.

For example, if you have a work Christmas dinner on Friday, and you know it’s a 3-course meal, there is a high chance you will want a dessert that day.

Consider this beforehand, and maybe in the few days leading up to the event, you could swap any sugary snacks (dried fruit, biscuits, chocolate) for healthy alternatives (veggie sticks and hummus, natural plain yoghurt, a handful of unsalted mixed nuts).

Your diet and healthy habits might change and look different over the Christmas period, and that’s OK.

By thinking ahead and managing your expectations, you can prepare for occasional indulgences and then not give in to spontaneous temptation, which often leaves us feeling guilty.

3) Practise mindful eating

When we’re cosying up on the sofa to watch The Holiday or Love Actually, it’s easy to reach for a snack and finish it without much conscious thought.

Mindful eating is essential to help us become more aware of what we’re eating, how much we’re eating, and why we’re eating it. In the long run, this can help us control our portion sizes and stay in tune with what our body actually needs.

Eating our meals and snacks distraction-free is the first step to practising mindful eating.

Try to avoid having a snack in front of the TV, on the phone, or while reading. If you have no distractions in front of you, you can focus on the look, smell, flavour, and texture of your food and enjoy it.

Then, try to slow down your eating. Eating too quickly can be challenging to listen to our internal hunger cues, which tell us when we are full.

4) Avoid the all-or-nothing mindset

If you spontaneously indulge in food or alcohol, try not to let it ruin the rest of your day or week. It’s completely fine to relax and enjoy festive celebrations. It’s important to try to ensure it doesn’t affect the rest of your week.

This kind of thinking is one of the main drivers causing a minor setback, resulting in people feeling guilty and quitting altogether. ‘All-or-nothing’ thinking is when we see things purely in ‘black or white’.

Avoiding this kind of thinking will prevent something psychologists call the ‘what-the-hell effect’. This effect describes the cycle many people fall into once they have indulged slightly, regretted indulging, and then gone back for more because ‘what-the-hell, you’ve already blown it’.

This effect also falls into another phenomenon known as the ‘white bear effect’.  When you try to avoid thinking about something or purposefully restrict it, thoughts of that specific thing or food are more accessible.

So by trying to specifically restrict a particular food, you’re more likely to experience cravings and overeating the very foods you were trying to limit in the first place.

Try thinking in shades of grey, which means thinking somewhere in between, for example, ‘I ate too much last night, but the whole week doesn’t have to be perfect. I can eat a healthy breakfast and lunch and make the rest of the day OK’.

5) Detach moral values from food

Try to stop categorising foods as ‘good’, ‘bad’, or ‘treat’, as this encourages the idea that certain foods are off-limits. This restriction not only makes these foods more appealing but can also harbour an unhealthy relationship with food and make us obsess over our food choices.

Instead, foods that you know are less healthy are simply foods to eat in moderate portions, mindfully, and less often. Then, foods we know provide lots of nutritional value for us can be foods we try to eat daily.

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Mohammed Sajid

26 December, 2022

Please help me to emprove my wait I lose


24 December, 2021

Found this article very helpful. Makes me feel I can enjoy the festivities without feeling guilty and try to be mindful.


29 January, 2022

Hi Carol,

So pleased you’ve found this guide helpful 🙂

Our programme helps to further develop mindfulness and balance in your lifestyle. We’ll support you in making healthy changes that are sustainable for the long term.

If you’d like to learn more about our programme, you can take our health quiz here or email with any questions 🙂

Lindsay Vale

29 December, 2019

All good advice, I’ll try to recall it when I’m tempted to eat off plan .. I think I need to restart reset on Jan 1 st !

Anne Harper

29 December, 2019

Christmas day was hard for me. I had a close friend, who knew I was struggling with my weight bring me 3 large bags of sweet treats/bars/ boxes full. I have kept some, ie the protein bars and redistributed the others to family and friends.

Angela Goodman

26 December, 2019

This is nothing new but it’s a good and very helpful reminder. Thank you!
(By the way, grammatically speaking, it’s ‘fewer’ fizzy drinks, not ‘less’.)


24 December, 2019

Love this article. Takes the pressure off, which can only help. Thank you – spot on as usual 🥰

Dee Greig-Dunn

24 December, 2019

Always good to be reminded of these approaches, especially mindful eating. Thank you.

Mary Foley

24 December, 2019

Thank you very much for this. I found it very useful reading.

Shona Riley

24 December, 2019

Thanks for the reminders. Very helpful article,thanks.

Ellen Campbell

23 December, 2019

Wise and supportive words. Being too critical of one self tends to result in very negative behaviours. We all need to be more aware and take a responsible approach and attitude towards our eating habits without demonising ourselves if we slip up from time to time… We are but human….

Jo Havery-Harding

17 December, 2019

Brilliant advice. The mindful eating is what I take away from this along with being kinder to myself if I get something ‘wrong’ (as I used to see it) in the world of food! I can’t wait for Christmas because I feel so much happier with what and how I eat these days. Bring it on!

Mary Garbutt

16 December, 2019

I tend to be an all or nothing sort of person when it comes to eating and found this article very helpful/encouraging.

Kath Jackson

13 December, 2019

I agree, there are so many things we say are ‘bad’, or ‘naughty’ when in fact we can’t attribute these descriptions to food or ourselves.

Bridget Ramage

11 December, 2019

Thank you for this reminder. Its is too easy just to throw the towel in when things don’t quite go according to plan.

Emma Golby-Kirk

11 December, 2019

This is great advice. Sometimes in these situations we eat food out of politeness to the host. It is helpful to get a sense of perspective and not worry too much but move on.

Karen Partridge

11 December, 2019

This is so so helpful! Thank you. I think that one of the most important things I have learned from Second Nature is that a wandering away from the plan is just that, and to return again as soon as you notice it or you can, will sort it out fast. I have been thinking about it in the same way as managing thoughts whilst meditating, that the learning and the practice is in returning over and over again.


11 December, 2019

An excellent reminder

Winifred Harwood

10 December, 2019

With Christmas fast approaching I found this a very sensible and realistic approach about how to cope with the festive season in terms of maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Maxine Fay

10 December, 2019

Excellent article. My mantra over the next few weeks is going to be engage brain (and mind) before eating.

Jan Andrews

10 December, 2019

Thank you very, very interesting and timely article

Marina Cusack

10 December, 2019

Well timed reminder, thank you 😊. I was beginning to feel panicky with all the availability of chocolate, sweets and other goodies…. It has never struck me how much such things are pushed upon us at this time of year….


7 December, 2019

Interesting article and a good reminder pre Christmas.
We actually did the mindful chocolate eating at a Practice Nurse forum I attended last week as part of a mental health update. 😊

Moira Collett

7 December, 2019

One of the best ideas I’ve picked up so far in my Second Nature journey has been the concept of mindful eating, and it is certainly coming into its own at this time of year.


3 December, 2019

This is an interesting and useful article.
I definitely have a tendency to be a “what the hell” girl. Quite a hard thought pattern to break.
Picking myself up the next day is not too bad, but acting with moderation in the moment is much more difficult. It’s sometimes better not to start but that can be a pretty boring place to be!


2 December, 2019

Great article. Thank you for the reminder.

Patricia McConnell

2 December, 2019

Great advice and support as ever from Second Nature team helping support all through the festive season and beyond


2 December, 2019

This can’t be over emphasized really. We all know it but seeing and hearing it being re-enforced is always good. Thank you. Catrin

Helen Faichen

2 December, 2019

This is all very good advice, I know it’s been covered in the articles, but a timely reminder to boost your mindset over the xmas period is great. Thank you.

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